By Thor.
There is a common belief that being a spiritual person means constantly giving to others. We offer our time, our compassion, our prayers and our support, often placing the needs of those around us before our own. While serving others is at the heart of Christian Spiritualism, we must also remember that we cannot continue to give if we allow ourselves to become physically, emotionally and spiritually exhausted.
A helpful comparison is the familiar safety briefing given before every flight. Passengers are instructed to fit their own oxygen mask before helping anyone else. At first this may seem selfish, but the reason is simple. If we are unable to breathe, we cannot help those around us. The same principle applies to our spiritual lives. Looking after ourselves enables us to continue serving others with love, strength and compassion.
Self-care begins with the simple foundations of good health. Eating nourishing food, getting enough sleep and staying hydrated are all essential. During periods of hot weather especially, it is easy to overlook how much our bodies need water and rest. Caring for our physical wellbeing gives us the strength and energy to carry out the work that Spirit asks of us.
Our minds also require care and attention. Reading, learning, pursuing hobbies or simply taking time to enjoy activities that bring us peace all help to keep our minds active and balanced. In today’s busy world, many of us spend so much time looking after others that we gradually lose sight of ourselves. Taking time to reconnect with who we are is not indulgent. It is an important part of our spiritual growth.
Emotional wellbeing is equally important. Many people carry worries and burdens in silence because they fear becoming a burden to others. Yet Christian Spiritualism is built upon community. We surround ourselves with people who genuinely care and who are willing to offer support when it is needed. Sharing our concerns often lightens the load, and accepting help can be just as important as giving it.
Part of caring for ourselves is learning to establish healthy boundaries. Many of us find it difficult to say “no”, particularly when someone asks for our help. However, continually saying “yes” at the expense of our own wellbeing eventually leaves us with little left to give. Setting boundaries is not about rejecting others. It is about ensuring that we remain healthy enough to continue serving them in the future.
Everyday frustrations also provide opportunities for spiritual growth. Traffic delays, road closures or unexpected inconveniences can quickly lead to anger or impatience. Instead of allowing these moments to disturb our peace, we can choose to use them for quiet reflection and contemplation. If we remain calm and trust that all will unfold as it should, we often find ourselves arriving exactly where we need to be, both physically and spiritually.
Meditation and quiet reflection help us reconnect with the Divine, while spending time with family, friends and our church community reminds us that we are never alone. Christian Spiritualism has always emphasised the importance of fellowship. Just as we are there for others, they are there for us when we need encouragement or support.
One of the greatest yet most overlooked forms of self-care is spending time in nature. We are not separate from God’s creation. We are part of it. Walking amongst trees, listening to birdsong, noticing the changing seasons and appreciating the beauty of the natural world can restore our energy and raise our awareness of Spirit’s presence. Nature has a remarkable ability to refresh both body and soul.
Music can have a similar effect. Whether through hymns, uplifting songs or quiet instrumental music, allowing ourselves time to listen and reflect can lift our spirits and raise our vibration. Music has long been recognised as a powerful way of bringing peace, comfort and spiritual connection.
Above all, self-care should never be mistaken for selfishness. Caring for ourselves equips us to care more effectively for others. A healthy body, a peaceful mind and a joyful spirit enable us to become better examples of Christ’s love in everyday life.
There is an old saying that a smile is contagious. When we greet others with kindness and warmth, that smile often continues its journey from one person to another. In the same way, when we take care of ourselves spiritually, emotionally and physically, we are better able to share God’s love, hope and healing with everyone we meet.
May we all remember that looking after ourselves is not time taken away from serving others. Rather, it is preparation for serving them with greater love, renewed strength and a heart that remains open to the guidance of Spirit.
This blog was drafted by Chat GPT AI from a transcript of Thor’s spiritual address at our divine service. Edited by humans.
